HOW TO ERADICATE UNWANTED HABITS

We will start by discussing  what the habit is all about. 

WHAT IS HABITS? 

1. An action done on a regular basis.

2. An action performed repeatedly and automatically, usually without awareness.

3. A long piece of clothing worn by monks and nuns.

4. An addiction.

5. A routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly

and tends to occur subconsciously. New

behaviours can become automatic through the

process of habit formation.

Habit can be done consciously or unconsciously. Some can trace the beginning of their habitual act while some can't trace theirs. Most habit can be wanted while some are unwanted. 

Some habit can be by;

The Actions we perform 

Word we speaks

The food or think we take

Where we goes

People we spent time with etc. 

Some habits can be inherited from from, parents or environment. Some can be as a result of work or engagement. It believes that what you did for 30 days becomes a habits. 

WE ARE LOOKING FOR UNWANTED HABITS. 

Unwanted habits are those actions we perform, or words you constantly use or the food or things we constantly eat, drink or take unconsciously which from our whole heart, we are not pleased with.

Most times, we may wish to stop a particular habit but the the more we fight or try to stop it, the more we involve more it. We may decide to stop it but in the next minutes you see yourself doing that same thing again and again. 

All the habits end in regret that is at the end of the activities, the person involved will go back  and be regretting what he or she did and wish it didn't happened. And most time those regrets lead to depression or suicide

Now let's suggest how you can overcome it. 

Step 1: Discover that very habit and always frown when you found yourself into the mess. 

Step2: Avoid the environment of people or whatsoever that makes you to commit such. 

Step3: As it unconscious incident, whenever you find yourself in such habit and come to your consciousness, stop it immediately. Remember it's a fight not romance. You have to fight it with all you have.

Step4: Don't get tired, you can try the above mentioned often times yet, nothing changes, please don't stop continue doing it until you overcome. 

Step5: Don't relax as soon it seems that you have overcome. Don't get yourself in that environment. Avoid anything that will lead to that remember, when the Pharaoh permits the Israelites to go. After few moments he regretted allowing them and ran after them to recapture them. So your habit may live for awhile but can't to be totally overcome. 

Step6: Pray God your maker to remove the stranger( unwanted habit) from you. 

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SOME SIGNS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS DYING GRADUALLY

You are in relationship and notice any of these signs, it means that the relationship is at collapsing stage. At this point, you don't need to force yourself to make it work anymore. The relationship can get to this stage when only one partner is making it to work. 

For a relationship to survive, it must be the collective effort of the two partners. Mind you nobody is doing each other favour in relationships. Its to the advantage of the two partners. 

1. You wake up early morning but you can't send even a good morning message to your love, trust me you are just pretending there is no love between two of you.(in long distance) 

2. Your lover sends you a message but you read without replying. Instead of hurting his/her feeling be open and tell him /her that you don't love her /him anymore. If you are busy to reply at the moment, let him/her know. And reply immediately you are through. It shows that you value him/her. 

3. You are in the same country you can take a week without hearing the voice of the so called lover.... My dear there is no love between two of you.

4. You organize to meet but every time you are saying you are busy. Why don't you tell him /her the truth that you don't love her /him. You can't be busy not to see whom you have feeling for(you love) irrespective your tight schedule. 

5. When you meet, you can't even give him /her a hug... why do you pretend you in love.

6. You always miss his/her call without calling back,its a true sign that you don't enjoy his or her communication. It's a sign of less value. 

7. You can't spare time for your lover but you spare time for other people. Why don't you be open to him /her that you don't love her /him

8. You've been dating for years without knowing If it's leading to marriage or not, tell him /her the truth and stop wasting someone's time.

9. Feelings are so painful If you don't love that person. Stop playing with his /her feelings. Be open say don't love her /him

10. Your lover's heart is not a doll to be played with. Be open and tell him /her that you don't love him / her anymore.

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SOME OF THE PRAYER TO SAVE YOUR HOME/RELATIONSHIP

According to the book of Num.14.28 - Now tell them this: As surely as I live, I will do to you the very things I heard you say. I, the LORD, have spoken!

1.I believe that as I pray this prayers, God in His mercy and grace will answer me in Jesus name.

2.I Thank God for my present marriage/relationship

3.I will not suffer in my relationship in Jesus name.

4.I will not enter into wrong relationship in Jesus name.

5.I will not be use and dump in Jesus name.

6.I will not be second choice to my spouse in Jesus name.

7.3rd party will not control my relationship in Jesus name.

8.My relationship will not end halfway in Jesus name.

9.What stops other people's relationships will not see us in Jesus name.

10.The spirit of divorce will not know me, my home's address in Jesus name.

11.My spouse must appreciate my efforts in Jesus name

12.I will not die untimely death in Jesus name. 

13.My relationship/marriage will not die in Jesus name

14.I will be a blessing to my marriage in Jesus name. 

15.I will not spoil my own relationship/marriage in Jesus name. 

16.I will not spoil what I have built in Jesus name.

17.I will not suffer and others enjoy in the name of Jesus 

18.I will not loose my spouse in Jesus name. 

19.Oh Lord my God Expose and destroy all household enemies 

20.Separate my households from agents of destruction in Jesus name. 

21.Prosper us in all side in Jesus name 

Pray this prayers with all yours heart and make sure you work with your prayers. As you pray do your best to build your marriage/relationship. 

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DANGER OF ABUSE

 

Abuse in relationships is one of the killers people are still taking for guaranteed as if it isn't in existence. People dies gradually as a result of the above context. Both physical, emotional, mental and what have you death. 

What is abuse in the first place?

Let us look at the definitions in dictionary. In one way or the other so many have consciously sent someone through this journey because he/she said yes to you..

Let's see what is abuse...... 

Improper treatment or usage; application to a wrong or bad purpose; misuse; perversion.

Physical or verbal maltreatment; injury.

Forcing of undesired sexual activity by one person on another

An unjust, corrupt or wrongful practice or custom; offense; crime; fault.

Coarse, insulting speech; abusive language.

synonyms

 invective, contumely, reproach, scurrility, insult, opprobrium

To put to a wrong use; to misapply; to use improperly; to misuse; to use for a wrong purpose or end; to pervert; as, to abuse one's authority. 

To have sex in a perverse manner; incest, homosexuality, prostitution.

To injure; to maltreat; to hurt; to treat with cruelty.

To attack with coarse language; to insult; to revile.

To deceive; to trick; to impose on.

 maltreat, injure, revile, reproach, vilify, vituperate, asperse, traduce, malign

So many people are victim of these, both men and female. Many have died as a result, many cried out and been vindicated and some have no voice to cry. 

Most times we think that men don't go through the abuse, men are also a victim. So many tolerates nonsense from their own wife because of one reason or the other, but because of societal believe that men doesn't cry out, that they only groans, nobody hears about it. I hear of a woman that beats her husband, but the husband out of shame refused to tell anybody.

One time ago, I hear of a woman that orally abuse the husband because the man lost his job and the wife turned to the bread winner of the house. 

 Many so called husband also abuse their wife, and put the woman into perpetual trauma, Pain disfigure over minor issues because you know that no one will ask you questions. 

But listen, all work will be tested by fire, God will judge every living being. Even our attitude towards our spouse will also appear before the judgment. 

EFFECTS OF THE ABUSE

 It capable of changing one's original nature. 

It make one's lost memory and focused 

It is capable of changing one's character negatively. 

It's capable of bringing untimely death 

It's brings generational curse 

It scatters home

It's exposes one to danger and also engage in dangerous act 

Emotional, mental physical illness 

Perpetual sadness 

Lost of self esteem 

Exposing to bad habits 

There are so many effect but mentioned few. 

Sometimes, some one can be going through abuse without knowing that it, so will know that they are going through it but don't don't know what to do. Especially in some society that does not care about about the voiceless.

Now, if you discovered that are going through any of these abuse, don't keep quiet, don't say or assume that you can endure it and overcome it, cry out. Look for help, look for someone that can help you or talk to you. Look for someone that you can confide on, that will even help you to find out if you are the cause of what you are going through. Or that will give you a guide on how to overcome.

Abuse is not what one can nurse,live with or quietly endure. Irrespective of your reasons. 

Many have died where they are trying to overcome it. Because of their children or one seems genue reason or the other. Remember if you die, the reason will still be there.

You the abuser, mind you that if you didn't suffer what you did to the voiceless less, your children will suffer it. 

Lamentation Lam.5.7 - It was our ancestors who sinned, but they died before the hand of judgment fell. We have suffered the punishment they deserved!

See what you are preparing for your generation. 

Some may be abusive but may not know it, observe the countenance of your spouse, children and people around you to discover when you are abusing them unknowingly. 

DON'T NURSE/ENDURE ABUSE OF ANY KIND, CRY OUT FOR HELP. MANY HAVE DIED TRYING TO ENDURE IT.

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RULES FOR SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

  Let's start this way; 

As a woman discover this, Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Most women are yet to discover their potential in men's life. There are divine call and assignments that God gave women but many don't know, some know but have not actually taking their position.

Unless you as a woman or man discover whom you are, your position in marriage, you won't be able to make it work. For your marriage to work it must be combine effort. It will also involve the both commitment of the two

It takes great commitment to make a marriage successful and blissful. This gift of God demands the commitment of those who are involved, it need total engagement, that you know it is not just enough in you are not committed or practicing it. The good thing is that the Bible is not silent on what couples must do to make their marriages work. Moreso not that some didn't know what to do to make it work but the problem is doing what you know to make it work.

We are blessed with some principles which will help us make our marriage work. The first one that catches our attention is SUBMISSION and love

 Wife must learn to  submit to her husband unconditionally. Your submission is a command from God. The submission is not because he is a good husband but because it's God's command.

God said man Love, what does it mean to love. It to drop, sacrifice, give out all for her to be happy and comfortable.

God said it's not optional but must.

This issue of love is a discussion of the next time. So we details it.

This God's command in Eph.5.22 - You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord.

Eph.5.25 - And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her

Any woman who wants her marriage to succeed should imbibe on unconditional submission. This is the submission that does not attach any condition to compliance. This Christian wife must learn to submit to the husband. When she does this, she receives a blessing which money cannot buy from God. “For after this manner in the old time the holy woman also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, bring in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed

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