Most times we will be wondering why many marriages/relationships fails. Some could start well but all of a sudden it will become a history. The question here is why?
Most times people will look at it and concluded that it fails because of lack of money but in recent time now we have heard of marriage of the wealthy people that collapsed. We even also heard of men of God in different categories that lost their marriages. Not only that, we also heard of many learned people, professionals that have lost their marriage.
The questions here remains why?
Here we will discuss about one among the factors that makes marriages/relationships to fail. Then in subsequent post we will see more of it.
NOTE: if you are among the people that believe that good marriage or relationship is by luck or destiny, this message is not for you
We will discuss one of the reasons in this segment.
1. LACK OF PREPARATION: someone may say, " I prepare very well for this marriage, I spent a lot of money, invited many dignitaries many people attended and were all satisfied"
So many may say, of course I have prepared. I read many articles about marriage and relationship. I attended many seminars. Listened to many tapes.
That is a good report. But many people spend much time preparing for wedding that is just for one day without preparing for marriage that will last for the lifetime.
People will spend years prepare for or study for a particular course. Or spend much time receive training in a particular profession or hand work. But in marriage it be like, is not just normal life and all that. Remember it's not all normal life that you can live unless you receive knowledge about that life.
As you are planning to go into this lifetime engagement or you are already in, The questions is what is your plan? What is your wish/desire about the marriage.
Then, how are you implementing the plans? All those things your learned during seminars and from the tape and what have you how are you implementing it?
You should have a lay down plans backed up with prayer and practice.
Let us look at this passage in scripture LUKE 14:28-32(NLT)
"But don't begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first getting estimates and then checking to see if there is enough money to pay the bills?
Otherwise, you might complete only the foundation before running out of funds. And then how everyone would laugh at you!
They would say, 'There's the person who started that building and ran out of money before it was finished!'
"Or what king would ever dream of going to war without first sitting down with his counselors and discussing whether his army of ten thousand is strong enough to defeat the twenty thousand soldiers who are marching against him?
If he is not able, then while the enemy is still far away, he will send a delegation to discuss terms of peace.
You must sit and count the cost. What will it take to build it till the end. Many have started but they could not finish. In our society today, we have many people that live together as couple but they are lonely. Some have left the affairs of the home to either the woman (most) or the man. And that gave birth to the kind of terrible society we have today.
God said in malachi 2:15(AMP)
Mal.2.15 - Didn't the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard yourself; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.
Some parent have separated from the children emotionally. The impact of a parent can't be felt among the children anymore. And those children turn out to be a terror to the society today.
God brought you together to raise a godly generation. That is to say in a home the influence of the fatherhood should be felt and that of the motherhood too. It's the combination of this effort that will give results to that God's expectation.
CONCLUSION
Plan to work as union, have a plan for your children. Have a plan for all the home affairs. Have a plan to eradicate some of those characters that can jeopardize your union. Planing is the secret of success.
Proper preparation prevents poor performance. The preparation must be accompanied with implementation.
Finally plan together how to work together
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